Dating boss

30-Sep-2018 10:02

Most people had a crush on a teacher when they were at school and the cliché of the boss having and affair with his secretary is a cliché because it happens with startling regularity.

There are many psychological reasons why you might develop a crush on your boss – most of us spend the majority of our week in our work environment so it could simply be the amount of time you spend together.

According to new reports, the chairman of Restoration Hardware has resigned from his job after the company discovered that he was in a relationship with a 26-year-old female employee. Okay, we get it—sometimes people fall in love at work.

But there's a big difference between getting cozy with a coworker on your level, and dating the boss. If you break up, you're in an awkward spot and, depending on the guy, he could make your work life total hell.

That said though, even those in it for the most admirable of reasons probably have to admit that the challenge and the 'forbidden' nature of the whole thing makes it all the more appealing. Well once you're hooked you're hooked and there's probably no going back, so instead of reflecting on the difficulties involved any further let's look at solutions.

Q: My business partner is dating one of his direct reports.

So be clear about why your colleague is now getting special treatment.

People in positions of power can seem very attractive.

Normally I’d be the one asked to go as she doesn’t even work on that side of the business.Coworkers might also get jealous and try to sabotage you on the job (lame, but it happens).Plus, if there's a company policy against it or someone can prove that you've gotten perks as the result of being the boss's girl, you're jeopardizing both of your careers. Get a new job ASAP, advises career expert Alexandra Levit, author of Blind Spots: The 10 Business Myths You Can't Afford to Believe on Your New Path to Success.Both Naomi and my boss were in a very bad mood the rest of the day and it was a little difficult to approach them for follow-ups and work related issues. All I can say is that before they started dating, things were calm and my job was going great. Check to see if manager-subordinate romances are allowed. For instance, some companies insist that one of the involved parties must transfer to a different division, if possible.That way potential conflicts of interest can be minimized.

Normally I’d be the one asked to go as she doesn’t even work on that side of the business.

Coworkers might also get jealous and try to sabotage you on the job (lame, but it happens).

Plus, if there's a company policy against it or someone can prove that you've gotten perks as the result of being the boss's girl, you're jeopardizing both of your careers. Get a new job ASAP, advises career expert Alexandra Levit, author of Blind Spots: The 10 Business Myths You Can't Afford to Believe on Your New Path to Success.

Both Naomi and my boss were in a very bad mood the rest of the day and it was a little difficult to approach them for follow-ups and work related issues. All I can say is that before they started dating, things were calm and my job was going great. Check to see if manager-subordinate romances are allowed. For instance, some companies insist that one of the involved parties must transfer to a different division, if possible.

That way potential conflicts of interest can be minimized.

In other words it's far from easy to date your boss but then again that's probably the very reason it's something we all want so much.