Im dating commitment phobe

07-Nov-2018 17:39

Do you ever wonder why your relationships start off so promising, yet don't last? Here's the thing, way back I dated several guys who pursued me relentlessly, sending flowers, wining and dining me and showing me off to their friends. I started asking myself: "Did I do something wrong? Some suggestions were: I chase him, I play cool, I sit him down and ask him directly. " I couldn't figure out why this kept happening to me. Several laughed yet looked incredibly uncomfortable and changed the subject when mutual friends would say, "When are you two getting hitched? After starting a journey of self-discovery, it became SO clear: a) I had to stop doubting myself and assuming I had done something wrong or I was not good enough, and b) I had to look within and discover why I kept attracting CPs. He could be really busy or just a little insecure and may want some reassurance.

Maybe he’s treating me as his friend and is playing the field?

If he doesn’t, well then maybe he’s not that into you.

Reader question (cont’d): What is your stance on dating websites?

Fear of commitment might range from a little uncertainty about your relationship to an absolute terror of 'settling down'.

Take Nigel, for instance:"It's not that I don't love her, because I do! In this piece, I want to explore exactly what fear of commitment is, why it might have arisen, and, vitally, how to overcome it.

Maybe he’s treating me as his friend and is playing the field?If he doesn’t, well then maybe he’s not that into you.Reader question (cont’d): What is your stance on dating websites?Fear of commitment might range from a little uncertainty about your relationship to an absolute terror of 'settling down'.Take Nigel, for instance:"It's not that I don't love her, because I do! In this piece, I want to explore exactly what fear of commitment is, why it might have arisen, and, vitally, how to overcome it.But every time she even hints about a long-term future together, I feel cold and sick to my heart. At the heart of all fear is the dread that something might be lost.